Marriage and couples counselling 

 

Online counselling also available   

 

I am a member of the NZ Association of Counsellors and I specialise in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.  I do no individual therapy - including if the work is focused on relationship.  In the last 12 years I have concentrated on couples' work, and since about 2012 I have worked with couples only

I bring a wide range of other learning, personal development and life experience to my work.

After 10 years of working with couples in Wellington including 8 as a Director of Counselling and Psychotherapy Associates in Thorndon, Wellington, I moved my practice to the Kapiti Coast in mid-2018.     

 

Typical clients

My clients are mostly partners who have somehow become disconnected, often through repeating patterns of bickering and nagging, fighting and withdrawing, or having just grown apart and disconnected - maybe with little or no affection, expressions of love or sexual relationship between them - and sometimes to a point where it feels, to one or both of them, like they are 'trapped' with little hope of anything changing. 

I also see couples who are dealing with the revelation of one partner having an affair, or some other past relationship injury, seriously threatening their future together. 


Approach - Emotionally Focused Therapy

I work with 'Emotionally Focused Therapy' (EFT) that I have been training in and working with since 2008.  Unlike many other therapy models EFT is an approach that has been developed and refined over 30-40 years based on much on-going academic and scientific research.  As one of the more experienced NZ therapists using this model I have been a Certified EFT Therapist for over 6 years (Certification is the international official recognition of competency in working with EFT - and is awarded after being able to thoroughly demonstrate acquisition of the knowledge and skills of the EFT model - and most typically it takes therapists in excess of 5 years to reach this level). 

Like many others I have found EFT far more effective for getting good results in couple relationship work than any other problem-solving, communication skills, conflict resolution and assertiveness/reflective listening approaches that I used in the past.  I love working this way!

For more information about EFT please check out my "Couples counselling" webpage.  This webpage also gives link details for a really powerful little 2 minute video clip - you might want to check it out - as well as details of an excellent book called "Hold Me Tight" which I strongly recommend couples to read.

 

Location - Kapiti Coast - and Covid 19/on-line counselling

From March 2020 I began offering online counselling using Zoom.

Current availability for online and face-to-face works like this: 

  • Covid level 2, 3 or 4: online only (so some existing clients have put their work on hold during these levels).  Where I have capacity new clients can start online at these Covid levels. 
  • Covid level 1: both options available - face-to-face and online (including some clients who choose to alternate between online and face-to-face.   

So please contact me if you would like to make an appointment.  Online option means that you don't have to live nearby to the Kapiti Coast!

 

Finding another EFT therapist for online counselling - Kapiti, or Wellington or anywhere in NZ

If you like what you read on my website about EFT but for any reason would prefer to see another therapist I am very happy to refer you to others.  

I could suggest checking out the official website for EFT in NZ.  Click (or copy) this link http://nzeft.org/location/therapists/ and then scroll down the listing (which is presented in a north to south format: Whangarei to Dunedin) and you will find Wellington listings there in the middle and therapists who are registered as members of the NZ Community of EFT and also of the International EFT organisation.  Or you can ring me to discuss.     

 

Contact

Phone 021 406 260, or send me an email at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.