Marriage and couples counselling - Kapiti Coast
I am a member of the NZ Association of Counsellors and I specialise in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. I do no individual therapy - including if the work is focused on relationship. In the last 11 years I have concentrated on couples' work, and since about 2012 I have worked with couples only.
I bring a wide range of other learning, personal development and life experience to my work.
After 10 years of working with couples in Wellington including 8 as a Director of Counselling and Psychotherapy Associates in Thorndon, Wellington, I moved my practice to the Kapiti Coast in mid-2018.
My clients are mostly partners who have somehow become disconnected, often through repeating patterns of bickering and nagging, fighting and withdrawing, or having just grown apart and disconnected - maybe with little or no affection, expressions of love or sexual relationship between them - and sometimes to a point where it feels, to one or both of them, like they are 'trapped' with little hope of anything changing.
I also commonly see couples who are dealing with the revelation of one partner having an affair, or some other past relationship injury, seriously threatening their future together.
Approach - Emotionally Focused Therapy
I work with 'Emotionally Focused Therapy' (EFT) that I have been training in and working with since 2008. Unlike many other therapy models EFT is an approach that has been developed and refined over 30-40 years based on much on-going academic and scientific research. As one of the more experienced NZ therapists using this model I have been a Certified EFT Therapist for nearly 5 years (Certification is the international official recognition of competency in working with EFT - and is awarded after being able to thoroughly demonstrate acquisition of the knowledge and skills of the EFT model - and most typically it takes therapists in excess of 5 years to reach this level).
Like many others I have found EFT far more effective for getting good results in couple relationship work than any other problem-solving, communication skills, conflict resolution and assertiveness/reflective listening approaches that I used in the past. I love working this way!
For more information about EFT please check out my "Couples counselling" webpage. This webpage also gives link details for a really powerful little 2 minute video clip - you might want to check it out - as well as details of an excellent book called "Hold Me Tight" which I strongly recommend couples to read.
Availability - location Waikanae, Kapiti Coast
I work from my home in Waikanae on a part-time basis and sometimes have capacity for a new clients, so please contact me if you would like to make an appointment.
Finding another EFT therapist - Wellington
Otherwise I could suggest checking out the official website for EFT in NZ. Click (or copy) this link http://nzeft.org/location/therapists/ and then scroll down the listing (which is presented in a north to south format: Whangarei to Dunedin) and you will find Wellington listings there in the middle and therapists who are members of NZEFT and also of the International EFT organisation.
I hope this is helpful for you.